The trend of Ladies Proposing to Their Men - Yay! or Nah, too forward.

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African ladies who propose to their guys. What do you guys think about it? It has suddenly started becoming a trend on social media with ladies taking things into their hands as some would say and proposing to their men. I recently saw a viral picture of a lady doing this and I am held in awe of her courage. Common to ask all these small boys out they will start using you to do shakara or taking you for granted because in their church mind, you are being loose.
With this trend of African women asking their men to marry them various views arise.
Some don't feel this is proper. They keep quoting this verse of the bible: Proverbs 18:22 as their reason. For those who aren't familiar with the Bible I would paraphrase it for you. Basically that place says that he who finds a good wife has found a good thing. In essence people who are against this trend are thus saying that the Bible only agrees with a man finding his wife not his wife finding him. So, in other words, men are meant to propose and not the other way around.
On the other hand there are some who totally agree with this trend and believe that ladies should take their future marital lives in their hands literally and take the bull by the horn.
But if you ask me, I would just say its more of a cultural thing. In the Western world, it wouldn't be seen as such a big deal. However, we're in Africa and we have so been wired to allow men take the lead in everything including proposal. Some claim it is archaic but then I believe it is part of our cultural heritage.
So what do you think? Should African women be proposing to their ladies or not? Let me hear your views through your comments.



Location: Ota, Nigeria

Comments

  1. idahosa iseguede11 January 2017 at 08:55

    Personally,I don't see much sense in it. Why go after what is meant to pursue after you ? This is the way we men are wired - whatsoever we did not work for , most especially in getting a spouse , has very little value. Even after getting her to agree to date him or after getting maried, if he is not trained by the lady to keep wooing her the man would feel he has gotten what he wants and as such familiarity comes in, disrespect rolls in, ego steps in, and all sorts of rubbish simply because he stopped wooing her. This makes the relationship dull. This is nonsense. Unfortunately the consequences shows up in the long run. We should not deceive ourselves and try to be like the whites. We are Africans and the Living God is quite aware of our Norms and societal values as Africans. Thanks for this piece.Kudos.

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    1. Michelle Aniuchi20 February 2017 at 23:33

      That's another angle to look at it from. You're Welcome by the way.

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  2. Elsie Nwadialo17 January 2017 at 15:29

    well in my own opinion the girl shouldn't have. A guy is meant to propose. If a guy really wants to marry you from his heart, you don't need to go that far. he will just propose and you will get married. simple. if I were the guy, I will see it as #desperado moves. well think I am old fashioned......

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