How long is too long?

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Hola! I hope y'all are having a great day. Anyways, I am here with this issue for us to deliberate and discuss on. I am going to bring the issue to you using this hypothetical situation below. 

So you know this couple have been dating for a while now. Then one day, the guy takes the lady, a lady in her mid-twenties to a restaurant (or a buka as I heard of in one case) and when the lady is not looking, he goes down on one knee and asks the one question every normal Nigerian lady wants to hear in her life. "Would you marry me?" The lady gets all excited grinning from ear to ear as she says yes. They are officially engaged waiting to get married. They tell you that they are getting married and you are happy for them.

How long is too long such that that engagement ring that once brought so much joy turns into a "key holder"? How long before that woman becomes "Lord of the rings?" This question was throw open on a platform and going through the comment section I saw a lot of interesting responses. Some said two years, some said one year, some even said 6 months. A guy even said 2-4 years wouldn't be a bad idea due to the "economic recession".

Therefore I am asking you my beloved readers, how long do YOU think an engagement should last? 

In my personal opinion, it shouldn't last more than a year, all things being equal. 

To the guy that said two to four years wouldn't be a bad idea, are serious kidding me right now? Two to four years of what? Two to four years of cock-blocking all the fine guys she could get married to? Two to four years of being the object of ridicule among her friends? Two to four years of her waiting while her eggs are getting fried with each passing day?

What if he doesn't want to lose the girl you might ask? If you don't want to lose the girl you should have made plans to finance the wedding once you realize that you don't want to lose her.

If he knows he doesn't have the finances to do the wedding as soon as possible, abeg make im let the sister go. The guy is expected to have have done all the calculations before proposing. Two to four years is not just a bad idea, it is a terrible idea!

A man who isn't financially stable and or emotionally mature should not propose to any lady, no matter the good intentions. It is the lady that get to wear the engagement band. In fact some men would use an engagement ring to trap a lady while they go about fooling around till they are finally ready to "settle down". You shouldn't trap a lady with an engagement band when you are not ready or in a state of mind to get married. It is unfair to that lady because you would be chasing potential husband-material away with your good-for-nothing ring. So if you are know you are not yet ready to get married, don't pop the question or put a ring on that finger.

Lastly, we should keep it in mind that the devil is always lurking around looking for who to tempt. Therefore, once you have found someone you want to settle down with and you have gotten engaged or proposed to that person with a ring, please get the wedding over with (by the way, don't forget to invite me to come and eat Jollof Rice o). There is no need putting the Devil to the test. With prolonged engagements comes more temptation. So abeg no let the Devil use you.

Anyways that's my say on this.

What about you? What do you think? Please let me know through your comments.